Coming Out

God designed you to be specifically yourself. It is your mission to find out who that is. That which feels good to you, what you are naturally drawn to (hobbies, wisdom, lovers) is the direction in which you are oriented—face this way; be guided toward people who support this version of you.

Express your-self. This is your duty. At the end of your days, you will report to God everything that you learned about what it was like to play the role of you.

When you worry about what others will think of you, you give them control. Why are you so quick to give control of your life to someone else? It makes you feel out of control; you become anxious and fearful – you are out of alignment with God because you are out of alignment with yourself.

With regards to sexuality, you may have noticed that a lot of people lately are finding love and finding themselves, and many more of them are coming out than ever before. As I mentioned in yesterday’s post, “WTF Is Happening?“, the Truth is rising above the illusion, or the immature self. And as male/female energy heals and balances all over the world, it will be even easier for all people to ‘come out’–as we will have less fear of ‘the other’ when we feel whole within ourselves.

Prayer: I love myself for who I am, and through the expression of self, I express a piece of God. I wish absolute freedom of expression for myself, and for the entire world. I am grateful that I am one of the lucky ones.  I open myself to personal growth and wholeness, and welcome the journey. I love who I love, and I love what I love. I desire to be the version of myself that God had in mind, which he placed in my heart. As I become myself, I release myself from bondage, and as I wish the same for the whole world; we are all released. I am always protected by my Truth. And So It Is. Amen.

Be yourself. You’re perfect for the role!

Love always,

The Jester

5/1/13 – WTF Is Happening?

…is a question you may be asking yourself, especially lately. There are many answers to this, here’s one: Male/Female Energy is going through a massive, massive cleansing right now. Karma is being burned, contracts are being broken, and for the most part, your ‘release’ system is on. Whether or not you’re consciously trying to release, it’s happening for you. Those who are in resistance in any way may be experiencing feelings of: anxiety, fear, frustration, anger, tension, stress, illness, pain, and general non-alignment with ‘how life is supposed to be’. Most everyone is in some kind of resistance; the larger the resistance, the bigger the emotional blow-back.

Everyone, the cords are breaking. As male and female energy comes into maturation, old ‘games’ are being revealed, and a desire to ‘grow up’ is taking over. Male/Female energy wants to be at peace with itself on the micro, macro, civil, and political levels. This desire-to-grow is magnetically attracting situations in our lives that 1) give us a chance to choose growth, whereas our former selves would have chosen to repeat, and 2) create a deeper desire to continue growing. Thus, the cycle continues.

illusion isThe vibration of Truth is rising above the illusions, like a flower breaking through concrete. The concrete is a very persistent illusion, material and hard, but the Flower is of god. The Truth comes out. People are coming out. They’re coming into acceptance of their Energy. Your energy wants to flow in the direction of your nature, and for many lifetimes you’ve been able to choose not to flow in that direction. In this lifetime, in 2013, you will not be able to choose resistance. The flow is happening for you, and those who surrender will reap.

Allow the wholeness of male/female energy within you to manifest in the way your higher self is choosing. Say a prayer of forgiveness (it can be basic, don’t freak yourself out) just say the words, “I release all energy in my space that does not serve my highest good, and I bring balance to all of the Male/Female energy within me, and I allow my energy to be itself.”

Tomorrow we will talk more about the idea of ‘coming out’.

‘Til then,

The Jester

Sometimes All You Need Is…

I never schedule my haircuts. I simply wake up one morning and NEED my hair cut immediately. Sometimes all you need is a haircut.

With life, immense amounts of change, and general ungroundedness on the bound, I started compiling a list of the smallest things that can sometimes change your entire day/week for the better. Here’s what I have so far, please feel free to add more via comments:

Sometimes all you need is:

  • a really, really hot shower
  • a really, really short haircut 
  • a diet coke
  • a perfectly relevant song
  • yoga
  • pictures of babies/kittens/puppies
  • 4 hours locked in your room watching episode after episode of whatever on Netflix
  • a bubble bath with extra bubbles
  • an orgasm (or two)
  • an hour of Youtube video indulgence
  • an epic grocery shopping trip
  • an epic online shopping trip
  • time to clean out your closet, car, inbox, or desktop
  • a facial
  • a massage
  • a paycheck
  • a joint
  • a buffet
  • a movie theater trip with large, buttered popcorn
  • a roller coaster ride
  • an afternoon nap that actually leaves you refreshed
  • a trip to the dollar store
  • facebook
  • time to watch “reality” tv without anyone judging you
  • time to write a delicious new blog post

That moment when you realize you and your friends used to have Borderline Personality Disorder.

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)- Winona Ryder in Girl Interrupted

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)- Winona Ryder in Girl Interrupted

You know that moment when you discover you, and probably at least a few of your friends, used to have, or still have, BPD? My moment happened to be on the radio. I’m the wingman on a monthly morning show called Happe Talk on KJFK in Reno. The special guest for the hour on this last show was Dr. Ed Lynn, Psychiatrist. In the beginning of this episode, host Michele Happe and Ed listed the 9 symptoms of BPD, and my mind was going: Check, check, check. I wasn’t sure whether it was more shocking to realize that, in the past (ages 12-23), I exhibited 5 out of 9 of those symptoms (the number that officially diagnosis someone with BPD), or the fact that I have frequently put up with friends that exhibited all 10. (I think when we see a piece of ourself in another, it’s harder to let go.)

If you’ve never heard of BPD before, or read the symptoms, you may feel relieved just by knowing that you’re not crazy (for having it, or for putting up with people who do.) If you realize that a close friend may have BPD, be cautious in sharing this news with them, because, as I mentioned above, it’s going to be in the nature of anyone who has BPD to FREAK OUT at the mere mention that they may need to seek help. Think about it, if there were ever a disease to be offended by, it’d be BPD.

I have WHAT?? F**k you. YOU have Borderline Personality Disorder. Jackass.

Often, they will claim that they are smarter than professional counselors and doctors, and/or that anyone who seeks any form of counseling is weak.  The best thing you can do is draw clear boundaries, be open and honest about what you think of their behavior, and ignore their attention-seeking behavior like you would a child; generally, they will either change for the better, or, find other people who want to play their game.

If you are the one exhibiting 5 or more symptoms, find help, either through a friend, counselor, church, or spiritual practice. Become mindful of your behavior, (Why did I just lie? Am I trying to make this situation worse? Why would I do that? Do I do that often?) BUT, don’t make a big deal out of how messed up and tortured you are–just become conscious of your thoughts and behaviors. Humility and self-awareness are key. Change like this can take place in a quantum moment when you realize how powerful you are; you were powerful enough to create these intricate dramas, and now you’re powerful enough to surrender.

Namaste,

The Jester

Here are the 9 Symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder. (To be diagnosed with BPD, a person must experience at least 5 of the 9 symptoms listed):

Abandonment Sensitivity

  • Frequently fearing being left or abandoned by loved ones or friends
  • Often imagining or believing that others are leaving, even when they are not
  • Attempts to avoid abandonment (for example, physically clinging to others when they attempt to leave)

Unstable Relationships

  • Having intense relationships with lots of conflict, and/or breakups
  • Having frequent arguments with friends and loved ones
  • Experiencing ups and downs in relationships (for example, going from feeling as if you really need someone to feeling as if you need to get far away from him or her)
  • Often feeling disappointment in or even hatred toward loved ones

Identity Disturbance

  • Experiencing frequent changes in sense of self-worth (for example, one moment feeling okay about yourself and then next feeling that you are a bad person)
  • Feeling unsure about identity (for example, feeling like you don’t know who you really are as a person, or what you believe in)
  • Feeling nonexistent

Impulsivity

  • Engaging in impulsive behaviors, such as going on spending sprees, having promiscuous sex, driving recklessly, abusing drugs or alcohol, binge eating, or breaking the law

Suicidal Behaviors or Self-Harm

  • Making suicide attempts or gestures
  • Threatening to commit suicide to communicate emotional pain or to see if others care
  • Engaging in acts of self-harm without intending to commit suicide (for example, cutting or burning yourself)

Emotional Instability

  • Experiencing intense negative feelings in reaction to day-to-day situations
  • Feeling intense sadness, irritability, or anger that may last for hours
  • Having frequent and intense mood changes (for example, going from feeling okay to feeling totally despairing in a matter of minutes or hours)

Chronic Feelings of Emptiness

  • Often feeling empty
  • Feeling no emotions or feeling as if there is nothing inside

Inappropriate Anger

  • Feeling intense anger that is stronger than the situation warrants
  • Having difficulty controlling anger (for example, often yelling at others, being sarcastic, breaking things, or getting into physical fights)

Stress-induced Paranoia or Dissociation

Having some or all of the following experiences in response to stress:

  • Feeling that others are picking on you or are trying to cause you harm
  • Having a feeling that people or things are “unreal” or experiencing episodes of feeling “zoned out” or “numb”
  • Feeling emotionally dead inside

Ball and Socket Joints, Family, and God

If I were on a deserted island and were only allowed to have 3 things with me, one of them would be a chiropractor. I freaking love going to the chiropractor, and I’ve had two of the best in the whole world: Dr. Bleser (Cincinnati, OH), and Dr. Donovan (Reno, NV)–both intensely spiritual men who are as much energy workers as they are doctors.

Some of my biggest problem areas, as my docs have noted, are my shoulder and hip…both of my ball and socket joints– a part of the body that is defined by it’s ability to be free, yet supported. What a beautiful paradox – free and supported.

My family is something that has almost always given me freedom and support (even if in the past sometimes it’s been a battle). I chose this lesson, and so I am grateful that my family has been a part of this lesson.

After reflection, I realize that I am so blessed because I AM free and supported by my Family and the Divine. While not everyone is as lucky to have one of these kinds of families, everyone has the potential to have that kind of relationship with the Universe.

So then maybe my lesson here is awareness and gratitude of how lucky I am, forgive and let go of the past, and strive to be a being who holds space for others to be free, and yet supported by me.

Oh what a wonderful world that would be.

What are your recurring pain areas in your body? What message could they have for you?

With Love, Laughter, and some healthy Reflection,

The Jester

The Paradox of Realization and the Faith Solution

What keeps us from manifesting our will?

The ability to bring any desire into realization comes from proper understanding of the metaphysical operation of the Universe; we call this Law. Law says that whatever is within your consciousness you bring to fruition; what you think about, you bring about. Consciousness is Cause, and Manifestation is Effect. (Also remember that there is the unconscious conscious, which means that there are even ideas and beliefs inside you that you are unaware of– and therefore can still manifest in your world.) You are, in this very moment, experiencing the summation of all of the beliefs inside of your consciousness, whether you know it or not. So, look around. Is everything perfect–exactly as you desire it? If not, Desire energy within you can assist you in manifesting that which you are wanting. If we can just change our thinking, we can change our lives, right?

But life is not as easy as changing your thoughts because Realization (Thought becoming Form) only happens when you are in alignment with the vibration of that which you desire. The only way to align is to act as if; that is, one must not simply believe the desire to be true, one must behave as if it is already true. Action is the energy that leads directly to Manifestation, not thought. And thought leads to action. So, what leads to thought? We live in a you’ve got to see it to believe it kind of world- our experience leads us directly to what we believe. How do we solve this paradox? For example, in order to manifest more cash flow, we must believe ourselves to be rich, and act accordingly, but, if what we’re actually experiencing is debt, then our tendency will be to believe we don’t have an abundance of money flowing through, and our action will be to hoard, thus leaving us to vibrate in fear of lack, and manifesting more of it. How can we learn to base our beliefs in something greater than what we are currently experiencing as true?

Faith is the solution to this paradox. Faith can help you to create a two-way road between belief and manifestation. Faith allows you to dip into the world of Cause, allowing you to realize your dream in the world of Effect. Faith is both a belief and an action; it tells the Universe, your partner in co-creation, that you trust in the Law. Faith is a spiritual stubbornness that doesn’t ignore reality, rather, it reminds your consciousness of the Truth despite the appearance to the contrary. Faith can reset the energy in your space, allowing you to vibrate in a new way to attract that which you are wanting, instead of keeping you trapped in the paradox.

Faith is the beautiful quality that allows God and Free-Will to exist together; you get to choose to believe. You get to choose to co-create with the Divine. But you must believe first. The law will operate according to your faith, so be an active participant in it. Don’t be fooled by the world of forms, for it is second. Fly on the wings on Faith to the world of Cause and operate on this plane from your Heart–this is how you become the Creator, which is your destiny.

With Light, Love and Good Vibrations,

The Jester

Prayer ⇒ Intuition: God’s Unlimited Data Plan

Our communication with the Divine is limitless.  However, sometimes you feel as if you’re not getting as many bars of service as you’d like to, even though you’ve just upgraded to the 4G network.

Communication with the Divine is often thought of as prayer. An answer to a prayer is manifestation. In prayer, we are asking for something, or perhaps just giving gratitude for the gifts of our life; either way, we’re asking.

The funny thing about manifestation and prayer-answering is that it is pure co-creation between Individual and Divine.  So, every time you pray (ask), you receive immediately, in the form of an idea, a feeling, an emotion, or a knowingness. You talk to God through prayer; God talks to you through intuition. Are you listening?

Your job does not end at Prayer. You have more work to do. You must listen. Then, you must take action. As you continue to create, the Universe matches you 100%, usually more.  (Talk about a great 401(k) plan, am I right?)

 How to get better 4God Service: self-discipline.

-Meditation

-Water

-Exercise

-Cleanse: body, mind, spirit, closet, and inbox.

Don’t be afraid to call whenever you’d like. You are a child of this Universe, and you inherit the Kingdom. There’s nothing too small or too big…a new job, a new relationship, world peace. There’s also nothing too personal or too superficial. The Universe never misses or drops a call. I could keep going with these phone-analogies, but my intuition is telling me to stop.

With Love, Light and Laughter,

The Jester

UPCOMING BLOGS:

The Intuitive Will: Connecting with God to do some awe-some manifesting

Resentment Energy – The Great Constipator of your Highest Good (and the Christ-Force Laxative)

 The Paradox of Realization and the Faith Solution.

 NOTE: All blogs from now on will have a corresponding video blog and podcast.

Distraction and The Ego (and “Responsibility”)

If Ego were a super villian, one of its many powers would be Distraction. The ol’ Smoke and Mirrors trick; the Art of believing in our own lie. The result: becoming our own lie. Then you look around at your life and think, Something’s not right.

Ego says, “Look over here, while I whisper sweet nonsense in your ear, and then I shall dissappear, having planted in you the seeds of fear. Good luck!”

You’ve created all this catastrophe, but you don’t really remember doing it, and you definitely can’t believe that you would ever have created something so negative. This certainly can not be your fault.

But I have great news for you–it is all your fault. Isn’t that fantastic?!

If it’s all your fault, then you get to fix it. Don’t let Ego distract you from what you know you should be thinking, feeling, and how you should be behaving. Don’t let Ego distract you from the reality right in front of you, and definitely don’t allow Ego to distract you from whose fault it is. Sometimes, the more objectively “not-your-fault” it seems, the more you should really be digging deeper to find what’s really going on behind the Curtains.

And right as you are about to see something for what it is, Ego will at last try to convince you that taking sudden responsibility for your life is the same as admitting that you haven’t been doing it all along; you’ve been doing some wrong, and Ego tells you that this is the most horrible thing you could ever find out about yourself. So then, in defiance, you say, “I will NOT change! Changing would imply that I need to change in the first place, and I certainly am not the one that needs to change! And to prove it, I won’t change at all. So there.”

Don’t fall for it! This is nothing more than a simple distraction from the Truth that it is okay to take responsibility for your life. You are not a victim.  You are not a perpetrator. Admitting you were wrong, taking responsibility, seeking forgiveness and personal growth are powerful, God-like experiences that will both humble you and empower you. Please keep in mind that Responsibility has 3 steps: Admitting that you have messed up; Forgiveness of yourself, and requesting forgiveness from others; and, Becoming your new self completely.

This 3rd step is key; how can you change your life if you don’t change your life? You know what I’m sayin’?

Simply shine your light of consciousness on your Ego self, and reveal the grand trickster for what he is. Ahh, good game, my friend. This was fun, but I’m gonna take my ball and go Home now.

With Love, Light, and certainly an infinite amount of Laughter,

The Jester